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3 Thoughts

I.

The most successful people I know are violently allergic to people who gossip, whine, and complain.

II.

Contrarian take: People calling you "lucky" is one of the ultimate forms of flattery. It means you have so much momentum people can't comprehend the amount of volume and work you've done so they write it off as luck.

III.

Everyone loves an underdog success story until it’s someone they know.

2 Quotes

I.

“If people cannot write well, they cannot think well; and if they cannot think well, others will do their thinking for them.” - George Orwell

II.

“AI is like steroids. It can speed up the process, but you still have to go to the gym and practice the fundamentals. You have to suffer.” - Sahil Lavingia

1 Game-Changing Idea: The Scar Experiment

A researcher gathered a group of women for an unusual experiment.

"We're studying discrimination," she explained. "Our makeup artist will create scars on your faces. Then you'll go to job interviews, and we'll document how differently you're treated."

The women sat still as the artist worked, painting elaborate scars across their cheeks and foreheads. Each woman saw herself in the mirror afterward. The disfigurement was shocking, impossible to ignore.

"One final touch," the artist said before each interview. "Just to make sure the scarring looks fresh."

But with that final touch, she secretly removed every trace of the scars. The women walked into their interviews with perfect, unmarked faces, believing they were disfigured.

They returned with disturbing reports.

"He kept staring at my scar."

"She wouldn't make eye contact."

"I could tell he was uncomfortable."

"They rushed through the questions just to get me out of there."

One woman said the interviewer had specifically mentioned appearance being important for the role. Another swore the interviewer had touched his own face in the exact spot where her imaginary scar had been.

When the researchers revealed the truth and showed them footage of their unmarked faces during the interviews, the women couldn't believe it.

The interviews had actually gone well. The discomfort, the stares, the rushed questions - all of it had existed only in their perception.

In psychology, this is called Confirmation Bias. We create narratives that confirm our initial beliefs.

If you walk through the world believing you're scarred, you'll see evidence of it everywhere. Every glance becomes a stare. Every pause becomes discomfort. Every rejection confirms what you already believed about yourself.

The women in that room learned something profound: the stories we tell ourselves about our worth shape reality more than reality shapes our stories. They weren't victims of discrimination. They were victims of their own expectations.

This is why the stories we tell ourselves matter. Convince someone they're incapable, and they'll see proof everywhere. Convince them they're capable, and they'll see opportunities instead. The mirror you believe is the world you'll see.

So the question to ask yourself is, "Are the beliefs I have serving me or hurting me?"

And if beliefs are just electronic signals in our brain that are made up anyway…

Why not choose to believe beliefs that serve you?

Until next week,
Jay “Scar Face” Yang

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